Let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
1 Peter 3:4
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I'm sure Katy Perry had a concept in mind when she wrote this song that is different from what I think of when I listen to it; however, I am going to borrow all the resonating power behind her idea (whatever it was) and apply it to my idealism.
When you feel ordinary and disposable as though you are on menu of women from which a man can pick and choose multiple courses (and you feel like the comfort food and not the delicacy); remember that God doesn't measure your value that way. If a man follows Christ, he is going to see you as sacred and precious; he isn't going to look at you (or any woman) as an object of lust (Matthew 5). Wait for that man who sees you as truly beautiful beyond compare and makes you feel as precious as you are. Don't give yourself away for less. The goal isn't to find a man who values you above all others but to find a man who values all women (and people in general) as precious and sacred and simply recognizes you as "the one" God intended for him. It should never be a competition. You should never feel stacked up against anyone else. You should never have to defend your worth or the truth behind why you wait to someone who says they love you. Wait for a man who can say something like:
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.
Song of Songs 4:7
and who also treats you in a way that makes you believe those words.
Now, I abhor the common perspective that women should be treated like "princesses" while its ok for women to talk about men like they are dogs. So any men reading this, take note. The same goes for you. Your love should be as devoted to you as the church is devoted to Christ (Ephesians 5) and she should value your body as this amazing, sacred vessel which carries your heart and soul. You should be able to trust her implicitly and you should be the focus of ALL her desire. There are certainly a LOT of women lusting after Ryan Gosling, Tom Hiddleston, and etc- even if less women than men are into porn, they are still absolutely sinning when they lust after actors or musicians or flirt with "cute" guys at work even though they have a boyfriend/husband etc. And while the Bible verse above was specifically for women, here is one for you guys:
Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature..for the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7
Your heart is where your gorgeous-ness comes from too. I said gorgeous-ness because I wanted to say "beauty" but maybe you guys wouldn't like that. Is beautiful not manly? I think men can be beautiful. If a guy wants to suggest a better word, please let me know. Any ways, wait for a woman who can say:
My beloved is radiant, distinguished among ten thousand.
Song of Songs 5:10
and who treats you in a way that you believe it. You should be her one and only. You shouldn't be measured against previous relationships or who ever is hot in Hollywood. You shouldn't feel like you are compared to or have to compete with any other man she happens to know. Thats not love. She must be able to say:
I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.
Song of Songs 6:3
End of story, no competition. Forever and ever.
Most importantly, you both should be able to say:
I have found the one my soul loves.
Song of Songs 3:4
If you can't say that about the person you are with, then you are lying to them and yourself; and you are simply using each other.
I typed "beautiful" into Google to try and get a random picture to pair with this blog post. However, since most of the search results were naked women (which immediately made me hate Google and society in general), you are getting an old picture of me.
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